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How to check-in on someone you’re worried about in a supportive way

A single thoughtful conversation has the power to uplift someone's day and make them feel supported and cared for.

If you're concerned about someone's mental health, these conversation starters can show your care and encourage open communication.

Here are some compassionate and empathetic ways to help your friends, schoolmates, colleagues or family members to share their feelings and challenges, creating a supportive connection.

Friendly Check-In:

"I’ve been keeping you in my thoughts and just wanted to catch up. How have things been with you?"

Noting Changes:

"I’ve noticed you haven’t been yourself lately—more [quiet/reserved/tired]. I'm here if you want to talk about what’s going on."

Prompt to Open Up:

"Whenever you feel like sharing, remember I’m here. Talking things through can sometimes lighten the load."

Expressing Your Worries:

"Lately, I've been worried about you. Please know that I’m always here to listen, whatever you need to discuss."

Offering Specific Assistance:

"It seems like you’ve been going through a lot. Let me know how I can help, even if it's just for a chat or to hang out."

Proposing Specific Support:

"I know things have been tough for you. Let me know how I can help, even if it's just hanging out or talking."

Suggesting a Joint Activity:

"How about we do something fun together? Maybe a game night or a walk in the park? It could be a nice break."

Assuring Confidentiality:

"Just a reminder, our conversations are always just between us. Feel free to share anything, I’m here to help."

Following Up on Previous Concerns:

"Last time we spoke, you mentioned feeling a bit overwhelmed. How are things now? I've been hoping things are looking up for you."

Encouraging Seeking Help:

"If things feel too heavy, maybe talking to a professional could help? I can help you find someone, if you like. It’s completely okay to ask for help."

Next time you're considering reaching out to someone, remember these guidelines on how to offer support without overstepping. These approaches help you convey your concern in a supportive way, making it easier for the person to open up if they choose to.

It's important to recognize that while you can provide support, you are not responsible for managing someone else's mental health. Always prioritize your own wellbeing first, and extend help when you have the capacity. If you're unsure how to help or approach them, don't hesitate to seek guidance from a trusted adult, friend, or family member.


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