The festive season is upon us —a time of twinkling lights, festive decorations, and the promise of joy and togetherness. For many of you, this time of year is filled with anticipation and excitement. But it can also bring its fair share of stress, especially when it comes to managing the expectations that often come with the holiday season.
From gift-giving and social events to family gatherings, the holidays can sometimes feel like a whirlwind of commitments and pressure. If you are feeling overwhelmed, you’re not alone.
In this blog post, we'll explore how young people just like you can navigate these expectations, setting realistic goals for themselves and managing disappointment when things don't go as planned.
Acknowledge the Pressure
The pressure to meet certain expectations during the holidays can come from various sources:
1. Gift-Giving: We all want to find the perfect gifts for loved ones, which can lead to financial strain and the stress of finding the "ideal" present.
Remember it’s the thought that counts! Even a home made gift, or something small but useful, can make the perfect gift.
2. Social Events: Holiday parties and social gatherings can fill up the calendar quickly, leaving you feeling overwhelmed by the need to fit everything in before the holidays are over.
We can be social at any time of the year! If you can’t seem to find the time to meet up with everyone over the next few weeks, make a plan to catch up in the new year.
3. Family Dynamics: Family gatherings can bring both joy and tension. There may be expectations to act a certain way, discuss certain topics, or avoid conflicts, which can be challenging to navigate. If family gatherings are a stressful experience, make sure you’re taking extra steps to look after your mental health before and after the event.
Setting Realistic Expectations
1. Budget Wisely: Financial stress is a common issue during the holidays. Set a realistic budget for gift-giving and stick to it. Remember, thoughtful and heartfelt gifts often mean more than expensive ones.
2. Prioritize Events: You don't have to attend every social event you're invited to. Prioritize the gatherings that matter most to you and remember that it is perfectly okay to say no sometimes.
3. Communication: When it comes to family dynamics, open and honest communication is key. Setting boundaries and expressing your needs can help reduce tension and promote healthier interactions.
4. Embrace Imperfection: Understand that perfection is an unrealistic expectation. Mistakes happen, and not everything will go according to plan. Embrace the imperfections as part of the holiday experience and have a good time regardless!
Even with the best intentions and preparations, you can still feel disappointed or sad around holidays if things don’t go how you’d hoped - and that’s totally ok. Here are some tips on overcoming disappointment:
1. Practice Self-Compassion: Be kind to yourself. It's okay if you’re not feeling the same excitement and joy as others right now. Prioritize self-care activities to manage stress and disappointment. This can include mindfulness exercises, relaxation techniques, or engaging in your favourite hobbies.
2. Reframe Negative Thoughts: Challenge negative thought patterns and reframe them in a more positive light. For example, instead of focussing on a gift that you didn’t receive, practice gratitude for the quality time and memories you’re making instead!
3. Lean on Support: Reach out to friends or family members who can provide emotional support and a listening ear. Sharing your feelings can relieve stress and help you to feel less isolated.
Remember, the holiday season is about more than meeting expectations. It's an opportunity to connect with loved ones, create cherished memories, and take time for self-reflection. By setting realistic expectations and managing disappointment in your own way, you can make the most of this time of year while taking care of your wellbeing along the way.